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Barney Stinson, the pseudo-Pick Up Artist character in “How I Met Your Mother”, inspired the Bro Code and even though it’s a fictional comedy, there are very real, unspoken, but still codified Bro Code rules that we men have when we head out to the singles bars and clubs with our buddies. >

Having a good wingman who follows the Bro Code is incredibly important. Obviously, a Bro Code follower is profoundly different from going out solo to pick up women. Both skills are necessary to have, in my opinion, but I generally prefer going with a buddy who knows his Bro Code and has my back when it comes to flirting with women.

A wingman should be your Bro first and foremost before he’s a PUA (Pick Up Artist), you can do both: work on your skillset as well as enjoy going out with friends and picking up girls. However, in the interest of making sure everyone’s goals are fulfilled, you need rules so that each of you are being a good Bro to each other to avoid misunderstandings.

So here are my 10 Rules of the Bro Code:

Encourage You to Approach – If you’re a newbie and still have approach anxiety, a good Bro can encourage you, prod you, and basically push you into approaching. Even Barney Stinson admits to getting a few butterflies in his stomach on the first approach of the night so it helps to have a bro give you that little push of momentum.

Provide Only Constructive Criticisms and Feedback- Whether you did exceptionally well to a total crash and burn, a good follower of the Bro Code can observe you and tell you what you did right and wrong. He can provide you with insights that maybe you didn’t know while you were flirting with the girl. Things like body language, tonality, and a plethora of other factors that you can’t see in yourself while you’re doing your thing.

He’s Your Homebase – In between girls and sets, a good Bro gives you a homebase. Someone you can talk to and chill when you’re both not busy running Game, flirting with girls, and basically messing around. It gives you time to recharge, rest and chill in between sets.

Gives Out Positivie Energy – A good Bro should be able to feed off your energy as well as vice versa. He’s positive, energetic, and should always be encouraging. NO NEGATIVE THOUGHTS IN THE FIELD. It’s like that saying, “There are no atheists in the foxhole.” There are no pessimists out in the field.

Deals with Obstacles – A good Bro should have the ability to deal with obstacles, whether they’re AMOGs (Alpha Male Other Group) or UGs (Ugly Girls), he should be able to distract and occupy the unwanted person in a set.

Provides Social Proof – You can tell when a guy is just your Bro or if he’s also your buddy. Two good friends give each other a certain amount of social proof because it’s obvious that you’re enjoying yourselves, chilling, and be social. Guys who just look like they’re hunters don’t give off that friendly, social proof vibe. You can also do accomplishment intros and the like.

Follows the Rules – A good Bro understands and is willing to follow the Bro Code, the top one of course being: “He who approaches first, gets first pick.” This just helps avoid confusion and prevents hard feelings. I have a variety of other posts on this subject like social circle sarging and my own personal Bro Code rules.

Knows When to Break the Rules – A good Bro, even if he approached first, should be able to tell when the girl he approached isn’t into him, but rather his Bro. If this happens, being both a good Bro, you should LET him have the girl and BE HAPPY about it. Sometimes that happens even if you ran tight game. Be happy for him, don’t be jealous. Remember you should also be his friend as well.

Understands the Tough Times – A good Bro should understand in what areas that you’re having trouble with. What sticking points that you have and encourage you and help you in ways to overcome them. This, of course, should be reciprocated on your part to help him out as well.

HAVE FUN! – Two good friends, Bros, should enjoy each other’s company as well as being able to go out and socialize with women. A good Bro is someone cool and fun to chill with. You can learn from each other and help each other with women, but you should also be able to just go out there, not even pick up a single girl, and STILL HAVE FUN! This also helps with avoiding burnout for those guys who treat flirting with and talking with women as a chore or a job.